Have you ever felt stuck in a story about your life that weighs you down — a story that says “I’m not enough,” “I’ll always feel this way,” or “Nothing ever changes”? Maybe it’s a story that’s been playing quietly in the background for years, or one that’s taken centre stage during a tough season.

What if you paused and asked:

What story am I living by?
Where did it come from?
Who handed it to me — and have I agreed with it without realising?
Is this the only story possible?
What parts of my story have I overlooked, or forgotten?
What story would I tell if I gave myself permission to hope?

Sometimes, the stories we carry are only part of the truth. And sometimes, asking the right questions opens the door to a better, kinder, more honest version of the story — one that makes space for growth, healing, and change.

Counselling can be a safe place to explore these questions and rediscover the stories that bring strength, meaning, and hope.

Alice, I think, was onto a good thing.

When the world is feeling upside down and doesn't make sense, curiousity helps us to identify what we need.

Have you ever thought about what you would look for in a Counsellor? It's something that has occupied my attention of late. Obviously, we all want to find the right person for us - but what does that look like?

Let's explore a couple of thoughts hey?

Thought number 1: can you identify what type of counselling you are looking for?

There's a bunch of good people out there waiting for the chance to help. We help best when you can define what kind of help you are looking for. Are you looking for help with a relationship, or your own wellbeing? The type of issue you would like to explore will help you to identify what type of counselling will be most helpful. Are you the kind of person that wants to explore emotions and feelings, or do you prefer to focus on a way forward - solutions are important.

Thought number 2: What qualifications would my ideal Counsellor need to hold?

It is a good idea to check that the Counsellor you are considering is appropriately qualified and holds professional membership with an association. A Counsellor with a Masters qualification will have a different skillset to a Counsellor with a diploma. Make sure you include your faith in this consideration - Counsellors can be ordained clergy or trained religious professionals who integrate spiritual and psychological insights into their counselling practice.

More later!